It couldn’t be more ironic that I discussed losing my writing in my last post and guess what happened to today’s post? Admittedly, I am rather inexperienced at WordPress, but I found the app on my phone and thought it would be a great way for me to write in-between appointments. I discovered that it didn’t auto-save like it does on my computer. But, I am no longer letting accidents stop me. I am simply rewriting the post! Yes, it is different, but I am still doing it and publishing this before midnight because I promised myself and the two of you who read this (smile) that I was going to have a new post every Tuesday and Thursday. It is still Thursday, so I still have a little time remaining and thank goodness I still have lots of ideas! In fact, I have had so many ideas that I have started a lot of posts and haven’t finished them. So, time to dial it back a little and get at least 2 completed posts ahead of schedule so I don’t encounter this again. At least I am learning and not giving up! Yes, I am actually giving myself a pat on the back for my commitment…
Until that last sentence, you might have been wondering why this is titled “Love and Commitment.” Maybe you think it is very cliche considering it is Valentine’s day. Perhaps… However, the commitment I am referring to is the one we make to ourselves! Does that change things a little?
Are you the type of person who will say really kind things to others (compliment someone on their clothing, their hair, etc.) then look in the mirror and criticize yourself? Or, maybe you have negative self-talk? For example, chastising yourself, “I can’t believe you did that. That was so stupid!” We all need to learn to speak to ourselves and view ourselves the way we would treat a best friend or the way we would want a best friend to treat us.
I still have a lot of work to do on myself when I look in the mirror or camera. I only see my flaws at first and have to look a lot deeper to see the beauty these days. I am making improvements though and have completely stopped the negative self-talk I used to do on a daily basis, which is huge for me! Negative self-talk, like the description in the previous paragraph is so toxic! The Huffington Post wrote an article, “Negative Self-Talk: 9 Ways to Silence Your Inner Critic.” It is a great read. I especially love #6 that states you should give your inner critic a silly name. I am a huge fan of Brené Brown, PhD, (a research professor at the University of Houston Graduate College of Social Work). She refers to her inner critic as “The Gremlin.” The name I chose for my inner critic is, “Naiveté.” After all, I know I am not going to listen to anything this critic says!
In a previous post (or somewhere on the site), I mentioned the Law of Attraction. Basically, it means that energy attracts like energy. The Law of Attraction is apropos in this post (and will be in many others too). If you are self-loving, the universe will send you more of the same. It doesn’t have to be in a romantic sense; there are many different types of love. I receive unconditional love from my 2 cats on a daily basis; one likes to give love nips and I could forego those.
Don’t just be attentive to others and forget about yourself. I did something for myself today; I wrote this post. What kind thing did you do for yourself? If you didn’t do anything kind for yourself, please do it now!
As always, thank you for taking the time to read!