Does it really matter what other people think? That depends! Are you trying to get a new job? Are you involved in politics? Do you represent a large organization of people?
I’ve never been someone who has been very concerned with what others think, which has made it a little easier to be my authentic self. Now that I’m writing a blog regularly and am working on other writing where I will depend on having readers, I need to be mindful. Being mindful is always good. However, I will never be that concerned with what people think of me personally and it won’t change who I am. Lady Gaga said it best when being interviewed by Fuse (check out the video in the following link), “I don’t care what people think of me; I care what they think of themselves.” That is exactly the reason I write this blog… I want you to think more highly of yourself!
What I hear from people all the time is that they are always concerned with what others think (about everything). I have heard for years that there is a question that people ask, “Do I look too fat/thin (etc.) in these jeans?” I could never be bothered to ask a question like that because I already know the answer and it is irrelevant. I dress for myself, so if I’m wearing something that is not to someone else’s liking or someone doesn’t think it looks good on me, I am okay with that. However, if I am going to a job interview, I want to be certain I am wearing clothing that is suitable for the position for which I am applying. If I were in politics, I would be less likely to be seen out in public wearing a ripped up t-shirt and jeans. You get the idea; you have to dress the part you are playing.
An article in Psychology Today states, “No matter who you are, some people will disapprove.” It mentions a “hierarchy” for people whose opinions of you matter starting with family and ending with people you encounter casually. Sometimes the people who disapprove most of us are family members or close friends.
My advice is to ask why? First, ask yourself and consider the possible reasons. Second, ask them why they are so disapproving? If you decide that they don’t have a legitimate point, consider limiting your contact with them. Now, if someone close to you doesn’t like the shirt you are wearing, your latest haircut or new jeans, that is really minuscule. However, if they disapprove of the way you are living your life (if you are living a happy, healthy life), it might be time to either cut ties or put them on the “limited exposure list.” Have you ever heard the saying, “It is hard to soar with the eagles when you are surrounded by turkeys?”
Please take a moment to comment and let me know what you think. Do you care what people think about you? Do you spend a lot of time surrounded by people who disapprove of you?
Are you are soaring with some eagles? If not, it might be time to find a new group. Consider Meetup groups; search for subjects or hobbies that interest you! “Eagles” can be found everywhere!
As always, thank you for taking the time to read!