Yesterday, I was fortunate to be able to make myself available for a friend in need. I say that I was fortunate because when working in an office full time, I didn’t always have that option.
Recently, I have been thinking a lot about friends and how important they are in my life. I’ve always been so fortunate to have incredible friends! They can really affect your state of mind. If my state of mind is negatively affected, I can’t take care of myself, much less anyone else. Although it may seem selfish to some, I do take care of myself first. It took me quite a few years to learn that I’m the priority.
Have you ever been in a situation where you have had to let a friend go? Perhaps they were taking away more from your life than they added to it? I had to learn not to “give from the depths of my well, but from my overflow.” It just means that I had to learn not to overextend myself to others and only share if I had a surplus of resources.
I am careful not to cut someone out of my life just because they are going through a hard time; however, if their outlook is always negative or they are unwilling to grow, that is different. There are times when I would feel drained after spending time with someone, which is an indicator for me. This is a great article if you are trying to determine if someone is an emotional leech in your life. Note that I am still grateful that I had these types of people in my life because they helped me to gain perspective. I have learned to be grateful for all the experiences which have led to the person I am today.
For those friends who are uplifting, do you tell them? It can be easy to take people for granted, so please let them know how much they mean to you! I try to express my appreciation for people as much as possible; some are more comfortable with me telling them that I love them than others. ha ha Sometimes I give little gifts or make food for them. I am really into essential oils and how they affect you. (There will be a blog post about essential oils in the future because they are a big part of my daily life). Recently, I made lotion for a friend with lavender essential oil. Lavender is so calming and I love the scent; it is something that I use daily. I also made a lavender spray for another friend.
I’m planning to start having semi-monthly “game brunches” for some of my friends to attend. This will be a way for me to celebrate friendships and show those who also enjoy board/ card games (and frittatas) how much I appreciate them! One or more of my friends is on the Keto diet, so I will be making at least one frittata with no breadcrumbs and only keto-friendly ingredients. I am also making it a potluck so I don’t have to be responsible for everyone’s food. I am learning to take care of myself in this way; in the past, I have taken all the responsibility and then I’m just too tired to enjoy the games.
This is one of my favorite blogs (Tiny Buddha) and this post mentions everything from showing gratitude to people you love to showing gratitude for yourself. It even includes showing gratitude to those who challenge you. I’m learning to resist telling people when they are wrong; sometimes, it is one of the kindest gestures.
What is something nice that a friend has done for you or that you have done for a friend?
As always, thank you for taking the time to read!